July 3, 2013

  • Teamwork to the End

    My head and heart are spinning right now. Sometimes, they don’t move at all. I look happy in the photo because my dear younger sister and youngest brother are with me. We, along with our older sister are a team. I just wish these two lived in my town. The “game” would be much easier. It really isn’t a game, though. Not when your mother is wasting away from cancer. I’m really so tired and in a daze. And I think this is just the beginning of the worst to come.
    A week and a half ago, our red-haired boy was riding in a car driven by his best friend….down hill..curvy mountain road. That call came, thankfully from our boy, assuring me that he was “fine” but that there had been an accident. He had the strength and sensibility to spare me the awful details. Those came a bit later. The car went out of control (bad tires, fast driving). They crashed into a wall, flipped and rolled 3 times, stopping on their side (driver’s) and thankfully did NOT go over the edge down into wherever they’d have gone. I still get choked up when I see the skid mark and the big gash in that wall, and when I think of that night and then several days later when I was able to hug my boy’s best buddy, who miraculously survived. 
    Three nights later, (3:15 a.m.) our dog Kilo barked hysterically. Hubby made it to the front window in time to see a young man sitting in our Xterra. I spotted another one walking away from our dead car. They both walked out of our driveway as if they owned the place. Hubby called the cops who went out looking for the hoodlums before coming to our house to look at the cars and write their report. The guys were not caught. Other people in the area were also “hit”. All the dudes got from our cars was coin. Whew. We were stupid to have not locked them. Believe me, that has changed. Before that invasion, I had never gone to sleep. After the invasion, I didn’t sleep til 7a.m. and got up at 10. Cat nap.
    This past weekend, there was a horrific fire in Yarnell and Peeple’s Valley that a storm blew out of control. Tragically, 19 firefighters died from the 20 member Granite Mountain Hotshot crew, based in our town. Yes, we knew one of them. Our oldest son knew 2 of them and our younger son knew 1. Our town has been deeply wounded.
    As time goes on, I know there will be more tragedy. It’s a sign of the times. All I can say is how thankful I am for who is in my life and that no matter what, there’s always somebody who’s on the team to support with love and generosity and compassion.

June 24, 2013

  • Sitting Here Waiting.

    Waiting is so hard, especially when it’s a life in the day. So, I keep busy. Thankfully, I enjoyed a visit with one of my favorite people in the world. Yes, you, Sheryl. It was a treasured time; crying, laughing, talking, listening, sharing hopes, verbally figuring out stuff like heartbreak and what that looks like to a mom… soulbreak and what that looks like to legalistic church people who assume that YOU’RE the spiritually constipated one when actually, it’s probably THEM. I don’t know, but I am certain that God loves and has forgiven all of us. He wants to love and forgive through us.   
    And then there’s the trust thing and the believing that He will come through for us. I’m seeing, through my mom’s cancer and deterioration that he DOES come through…with little blessings like a pink painted walker and a genuine Philly hoagie for mom. And how he preserved my son and his best buddy when his buddy lost control of his car and they hit a wall and then bounced off to roll 3 times. Thank you DEAR GOD for not taking my son or his friend or his friend’s younger brother quite yet.
    I know, I know. People all around me have suffered through SO much more and  here I am, talking like a life in the day and a day in the life is too, too much. Earlier yesterday, I felt that. wanted to just sit down and cry. But, the meltdown didn’t come. I’d already leaked out enough here and there. 
    So, the fire near our town has been brought into submission, enough so that firefighters can go help in other states, like Colorado. We have cooler temps and more wind today and by now, everyone is despairing because still…no rain in the forecast. Such is life here, today. I’m happy that the sun is shining and we keep going. We love and are loved. What a blessing!

June 20, 2013

  • It Can’t Be SuMmEr Without….

    a wildfire. This fire started about 8 miles outside of our town and the winds have been whipping it toward the north, away from town. We have a lot of friends with homes very close to the burning area and thankfully, no homes have burned. We’ve seen quite a bit of air support and great ground support. Firefighters are amazing. So much can go wrong, yet they are well trained and work hard to see success. I couldn’t resist getting a few of my own photos; so many people have been out with their cameras to shoot the fire pictures. Tonight, I elected to stay home and get the last of the laundry done. 
    Things are happening around here. My mom has a definite stage 4 cancer diagnosis and has decided, calmly and with determination, to refuse any further tests and treatment. She is “done” with all that and simply wants to enjoy what time she has left. I do not have the heart to call the doctor and ask what the guesstimate on lifespan is now. What I am going to be doing, beginning tomorrow, is make her bucket list items happen. I have cried with her and laughed with her and I have been very stoic at times…like a soldier. This is just so hard, yet I have experienced comfort and peace and strength. God is with us.

June 5, 2013

  • Off the Top of My Heart

    One day last week (I think that’s when it was), I was able to go for a walk with a friend. She spotted a cool looking weed and it was too far off the path where we’d already seen a snake and 3 men told us about several very large green something kind of snake. (If THEY were afraid, WE were going to be veeerrrry careful!). So, I figured I’d go back another day and see if I could be brave enough to take a picture of it. Well, I didn’t go back. I’ve been too busy with life in and around the house.  Yesterday, I went out back, into the far corner behind the garden to “fetch” some chicken wire for the garden. To my utter delight, thee was this weed. The very same kind that my friend and I saw on our snake path walk! I dashed into the house and grabbed my camera. You see my hasty result. I am so happy about a weed photo, it’s ridiculous. I wonder if Jesus was laughing. It’s these little things that make my day. And when big happy things happen, I’m ecstatic. 
     My mom had a breast biopsy done. Younger sister was emotional. Dad was nervous. Older sis was nervous. Mom was emotional, telling us about her final wishes. Youngest brother and I were on the same page with this latest test; feelings kept in check. He and I are so very much alike. Give us both ALL of the facts, all of the results, and THEN we’ll figure out what to do with everything. Yes, I did cry at the beginning of the journey, but have reminded myself that we shouldn’t jump into a pot that’s not boiling and say we’re burning. Tomorrow, I take mom for a cat scan and a bone scan. Next week, we get results.  Feelings in check.

May 29, 2013

  • What Thyme is It? Life in the Day…

    This is lemon scented Thyme. I love the teeny tiny flowers, which I have brought closer to my eyes with the use of my macro tube set. Someday, I’d love to own a true macro lens, but the tube set works well enough. The fascination of peeking into a tiny world will never leave me.
    How does God see me? What matters more to me is his love and what I do with it.
    Today, I was emotionally and a bit physically tired from all the big ugly news. However, when my mom told me that the food in their house didn’t appeal to her, I asked if a little roast beef might be good. No, she told me. “Maybe a smoothie”.  I kicked my tired self into gear and whipped up a luscious banana berry smoothie, packed it in ice and drove over to my parents’ house. I delivered it to her in her bed. Much to my delight, she was on her cell phone, laughing at whatever my dear daughter was telling her.
    Timing. It was more than perfect. My daughter’s kindness in reaching out to her Mommom while I delivered a much needed smoothie. The Laughter! YAY! I SO needed to hear her laugh! She’s facing a rough time. Time that will be all about pain, more pain. Treatments. Hair loss and who knows what else. 
    Thyme makes me think of Time. What am I doing with it? Am I showing compassion…enough of it? There are teeny tiny ways of helping that turn out to be huge to the person receiving the kindness. Mom needs help, Dad needs help, older sister has her own issues. I’ve been saying, “We WILL do this, we WILL get through this” as if I am my own cheerleader.. Pray I don’t curl up in the closet and have a breakdown.. Wait. Maybe I NEED to do just that. And then pull it together and soldier on, not because I have to but because I believe in giving everything I have to help my family.
    Two of my daughter’s friends have offered to make dinner for me and hubby and red-haired son on Thursday, the day I take my mom for her ultrasound biopsy. My younger sis and brother are making the 2 hour drive to be there, too.  Kindness……it sure does help.  Make the most of the time you have.

May 27, 2013

  • A Life in the Day

    When I snapped this photo through the car window, I loved the look of the angel wing clouds and how the sky appeared to be opening.  Today, my soul feels opened like that sky. I am releasing the sadness I feel so that it doesn’t take over my desire to live life as fully as I am able. And now, I am going to be helping my mom live life as fully as she is able, more than ever. Her doctor called today… a Sunday of a holiday weekend. (You know it can’t be great news).
    She does have cancer. In 3 places. For the 3rd time. This is the life in this day.

May 24, 2013

  • The Scent, My Friday

        Thanking God, today is where I can just open my nostrils and sniff in the scent of flowers, herbs, my favorite eau de….. the scent of my favorite person in all the world’s neck. There is so much comfort and happiness in these scents that I love. I mourn for those who cannot sniff and smell and enjoy the scent that would put them in a happy place. I like to sometimes think of the Holy Spirit as a scent that far exceeds any on this earth and that someday I will be completely surrounded by and soaked in it.

May 20, 2013

  • iNeed, iWant, iWonder….

    what God will be doing with me today, tomorrow, next week. Yesterday, as I was spilling my guts to a couple of pastor wife friends, I said, “I know that if you want to climb a mountain, you must climb, then fall down, then get back up and climb, fall down, get back up and climb.”   But right now, I just don’t feel like continuing to climb the mountain. I need a valley of respite. I want a vacation. I wonder if I can experience bliss, THIS day. Or maybe tomorrow?

    Hubby went to the Endocrinologist a couple weeks ago. He received answers but no cure. This morning he went to the Cardiologist. Again, an answer but no cure. “This just happens to people”, he was told. Well, Honey, that’s not good enough for me. I WANT a CURE!   iNEED  my energetic, happy, fun, healthy man back.
    My mom has yet another health crisis. her doctor believes her cancer has returned. I took her to the surgeon on Thursday, or was it Wednesday. (losing my mind here). This coming Thursday, I’ll take her to have an MRI and a PET scan.    iHOPE for answers….and strength…and grace…and patience, as this extraordinary situation comes on top of the other things iHAVE to do and take care of.
    My daughter-in-love wants to be a wedding photographer. She wants me to help. She landed us a job for June 22nd for a casual ceremony by the lake. I am nearly having seizures from the sheer stress of this whole photographing a wedding. iAMNOT a wedding photographer!!! SO if any of you want to come here and fill in for me, please DO!
    Tomorrow, hubby and I are supposed to babysit the 2 little Grandboys. We were supposed to have all 5 of the Wonders but I begged out of that, considering the stress and exhaustion we’ve been under. Thankfully, Daughter-in-Love is understanding enough to take the other 3 with her. iTHINK this is how it’ll have to be now when it comes to helping her with childcare. We are just whipped out now. Yes, whipped. And wiped.
    iLOVE that my red-haired boy is home. He is catching up on sleep, food, fun with friends and working here and there ’til something solid happens. Our daughter is living in Texas, working, working, working and taking more classes. She is a joy!
    Changes are what helps life move along, whether you like the change or not. In the end, iKNOW I’ll be at the top of that mountain. 

May 8, 2013

  • To Texas and Back

       We drove for many miles. Two nights in motels with many hills between them and finally we were where we wanted to be; with our college kids! With only one day to be there, we packed it full with packing THEM so that they can both move into the next phase of their lives. That day was the 3rd of May, hubby’s and my 33rd wedding anniversary. We packed, ate out with our kids and daughter’s boyfriend, took pictures and laughed a lot. Hubby and I and Ryan-our-red-head son left to head home on the 4th. For many miles, we drove, spending 2 nights in motels, to finally arrive where I didn’t really want to go. Home. Why not? Because I wasn’t finished with having fun in Texas and because my girl stayed over there. This, however, is where I am supposed to be and I must think about what I’m thankful for in this place. Today, it rained and my goodness, the air smelled so good. That refreshment for the earth made my soul smile.

April 29, 2013

  • Hair the Color of Chili Powder

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    That boy is my “baby”. This evening, he completed another year of life. He is now 19! His sister made sure he had a “Happy Birthday” over there in Texas. This is his 2 nd birthday that I could not be present. The first time was when he was 6 and I was in the hospital, recovering from a near death from an ectopic pregnancy. His daddy was Superman that week, taking care of the things at home, the kids and putting together a birthday party for Ryan.  THIS time, his sister was Supergirl and pulled things together to make her brother feel special.  We will all be together next week and will celebrate life together; our 33rd wedding anniversary, Ryan’s 19th birthday, and Brianne’s 21st (early).. Life must be celebrated, don’t you agree?

April 24, 2013

  • “Honey, Will You Do Me a Favor?”

    Of course, he said “Yes”. I needed a photo of myself for a church related something and I knew I couldn’t take it myself. I don’t like the timer or the remote clicker thingy. So, Hubby had to be my photographer. Then I had to do a teeny bit of editing. Just a tad smoothing of a couple of eye wrinkles and the veins on my chin. POOF! Gone! Oh yes, I also touched up my roots because I can’t afford to visit my hair girl for a professional root touch up. Ta-DA, the photo is finished, and hopefully approved by the someones and something that it was required for.  I love being real, genuine, “transparent” (overused word, but it works), however, when it comes to a photo that will be printed up, fixing it all little is not a sin. Besides, they all have seen me “as is”. I just can’t WAIT for that block of goldish yellow to finally grow long enough for me to hack/cut it off.

     
    Now, I realize that this is so terribly trivial in light of all the horrible events in the world around us, but this is just a piece of my little life. Tonight, I’ll be praying myself to sleep. All those big issues will be on my heart and my silly hair will not even enter my thoughts.
    How is your week going so far? Has Spring sprung everywhere? 

April 20, 2013

  • Smile, Books, Flower

    That baby Grandboy smiles like he does as if he knows I needed to see it…jUsT like THAT. He is such a Love, nearly angelic. I keep wondering if a little monster will pop out. So far, nothing of the sort resides in him. I hope he is still like that when he’s 19.
    Old books are not only fun to look at, they are interesting to read and make a nice thing to photograph. I’m not bored, really, just being quiet and thoughtful, attempting to focus on the good things. Looking at old children’s books make me think that the old days were so innocent. Oh, of course, life may have been nasty and painful to many “back then”, but still.
    Recently, a friend gave me beautiful flowers for my birthday and they have proven to be a source of joy! One of the GOOD things that my mother instilled in me as a child was the love of flowers. Intricate beauty, seemingly innocent, approachable, naive.
    Outside, we have a beautiful, sunny 72 degree day and I really should be out there pulling weeds that have begun to take over! I’m thankful that it’s only weeds, not anything sinister. 
    Wishful thinking…to be at the beach today. But it’s 8 hours away.  ”Someday”…..   Continue to love with each blessed breath.

April 15, 2013

  • Few Words

    My life has been spared chaos. I have experienced pain, yes. Today is yet another day where I am shocked by the cruel events in the world and wonder when it will all end. Like, when will God finally take us believers up into the heavens. My impatience to be freed from seeing people suffer grows each day, yet I know that so many people must have the blinders taken off of their spirits so that they’ll acknowledge their need for the Savior, Jesus. and the gift of life eternal…life on the new earth. My own suffering always puts me in touch with Him, sometimes immediately and sometimes after I’ve brewed and stewed. Don’t let Hope and Love and Faith and eternal life slip out from under your heart.

April 7, 2013

  • Spending

    …time with a friend at the Hospice House as her loved one went through the process of leaving his earthly body
    …money to ensure our needs are met, including hotel rooms when we pick up our “baby” from college
    …tears of joy for love lived and life loved
    …belly laughs with hubby when we are silly
    …the Starbucks gift card for a special foo-foo drink to put more zip into my day
    …gasoline to go the extra mile for people in need
    …extra gallons of water to ensure the garden thrives 
    …little bobby pins to hold up the grandgirlies’ whispy stray hairs
    …space on the sd card for photos of the grandwonders
    …more food to create enough to feed extended family
    …sweat on the treadmill to burn the fat cells
    …smiles because I have honest joy in my spirit.

March 30, 2013

  • Bunny. My Birthday Story

    Events and plans can change at a moment’s notice. I decided that because part of my birthday was sort of ruined last year by a family member, I’d make a plan for this year, to make up for it. I thought if I asked for the simplest thing, my simple dream would come true. All I wanted was to have ONE DAY where I could be in control and get to do what I wanted to do. No biggie, right? So, hubby and I decided that on my Bday, the 26th, we’d go down to the valley and  look for the blooming orange trees, then get a chocolate cupcake from Sprinkles. I’ve had such a hankering to sniff the aroma of those orange trees. A Sprinkles cupcake is deliciousness!  Well, it seems we no sooner made the plans then I was told that my dad had to have a stent put in his heart. that.very.day….my bday. I realized that a stent was more important than orange blossoms and cupcakes and that I do love my dad enough to spend my Bday at the hospital. I had also become so very disgustingly human last Sunday when I lamented to a friend that all I wanted for my Bday was blah, blah, blah. She felt my pain, as she has sacrificed much of her life to care for aging parents, etc. She gives, gives, gives. I hugged her and we said good-bye with a few tears in our eyes. That is when I completely let go of my desire to have what ME wanted.
    Peace filled my soul. Complete God love filled my spirit.
    Morning of the 26th:
    I was getting ready in the bedroom. Hubby came in with a festive gift bag saying that someone had just left it at the door. Like an excited child, I opened it to find a bunny, a bottle of orange essence oil, a fancy bottle of orange-honey liquid hand soap and a Newman dark chocolate-orange bar. The card had a wonderful message written in it. It was from my friend I hugged and cried with on Sunday. Can you believe it????
    So, with my heart in the right place, we went to the hospital and I enjoyed the previously unexpected company of my sisters and one brother and our mom. And hubby, of course. God was totally there. I know “totally” is way overused. Like, “way” is, too. But, GOD was THERE. sorry about the caps.
    Dad didn’t need the stent after all. But the procedure cleared whatever blockage was there and he’ll probably continue eating his every morning danish and donuts, (oy vey). I loved the results of the day.
    Spending time with my family, hearing my little grandboy ask me “Gwammy, aw you having a nice bawthday?”, receiving surprise gifts, fabulous phone calls from my college kids, an orange birthday cake that hubby managed to bake in the midst of all the activity, the peace I felt…what a grateful girl I am. The entire day was a gift. 
    The orange grove can wait.

March 12, 2013

  • Here’s Proof

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    Spring is happening in my backyard. I was up close and nearly kissing this busy bee. There were many others and none of them bothered me. I am so happy.

    My college kids are driving home, beginning this Friday. WOOHOO. I am SO very happy.

    Some people believe that they are not worthy to be loved by God. I understand where that thought comes from. I believe we ARE worthy. Otherwise, why did he send Jesus to die on the cross to pay the price for all of our sins past, present and future? Why does he consider us his children? I could go on and on. I believe he tells me that I am worth it. I am worthy of his love. Worthy to live forever in heaven, because he said I would if I simply believed. He doesn’t want us to live in shame and misery. That’s a heavy old coat that satan wants us to wear. Well, I’m not wearing it, no thank you, because I am free.

March 6, 2013

  • …And, That is Enough

    Spring is springing here and we’re supposed to have snow this weekend. Enough for the weather report!
     Hubby is healing beautifully from his elbow surgery and the Physical Therapist is WAY impressed with the elbow’s healthy condition. Enough for the health report.
    My college children will be coming home soon for Spring Break and I am beyond happy that they have chosen Home as their Spring Break destination. Enough for kid news.
    Photography for me is poking along, as far as the business end goes; people around here can’t afford to pay. So, we trade when possible. Free hair cut and highlights for free prom photos of hairstylist’s daughter, etc. Enough for trading for photography.
    As the trials in life are becoming unbearable for so many people (directly and indirectly), God is holding them. I believe he’s not just “by my side” as some “Christian Contemporary” song lyrics suggest. He is all the way around me and in me because I believe in him. That’s the Word, the Truth. And…that is enough.

March 1, 2013

  • I Texted My Sister this Morning…

       ”Happy Frideeeee!!!”  She works full time at a Physical Therapy place in Snobsdale (Scottsdale) and has Fridays off. She neeeeeds those Fridays off. And a couple of our family members pronounce the end of the days of the week eeee, instead of ay. It’s just something nonsensicle to tease about. So, Happy Frideeee it is to her. She didn’t have a headache for once and she got to go to the salon to get her hair done. I haven’t heard back from her since, so I am guessing she’s enjoying her day, hopefully, still headache free.

    My days are pretty much all about hubby, although I did have a fun photo shoot yesterday and because the 3 “victims” and I are friends and had time to spare, we went to our awesome local coffee shop (not Sbucks) and enjoyed our hot drinks and meaningful conversation. What a nice break! After I returned home, I decided to do a little sunbathing where a significant amount of sun splashes onto our livingroom floor. In the background, beautiful romantic guitar music was playing (thank you, Pandora). I imagined sea gulls flying and squeaking, waves crashing and could almost smell the glorious scent of Coppertone and french fries. I promptly fell asleep.
    When I came out of my beachy slumber, I noticed things from On The Floor level and grabbed my nearby camera. I am so easily entertained. 
    To be continued.. 

February 23, 2013

  • Anything ~ IS ~ Possible

    Like me getting up at 5:30 A.M. because we needed to leave the house early and go to Flagstaff for hubby’s elbow surgery. I was not a “happy camper” a week ago when I knew there was no getting around this schedule change. So, I gave my burden to God.  

    One of the greatest treats was to see snow-dusted pine trees…NOT the ice slicked highway!
    I’m thankful that the surgery to take care of 3 different issues (bone, muscle and nerve) was successful. We had no idea that 2 of those issues were issues! Now we know why he had certain pain for so long. After he was released into my tender loving care, we had to find food, and quickly. We ate a bagel at Biff’s. His maple bacon bagel tasted like a pancake breakfast. We wish we had purchased a dozen and eaten them on the drive home!Then we found a little bakery where we each enjoyed an empanada; mine was oozing with yummy cherry filling and made me wish for summer. 
    Our drive home was quick and all of the ice had melted. I was SO thankful for that! Since then, our moments have been all about me caring for him, which is something that I truly believe I was made to do. He is a strong guy and likes to be capable and helpful. But being in so much post-op pain causes him to give up and let me do much more for him than I normally would do. He told me that he doesn’t know how people who are alone can do this…caring for themselves after surgery. 
    Giving up what we are so used to (self-reliance, each other’s presence, each other’s help in certain areas) is a good way to shake a little change into a marriage to show each other that our foundation is God’s love and grace and strength. I am definitely married to my best friend.

February 20, 2013

  • Just a Dusting

    Almost everybody is getting cranky about how often the “weatherman” lies. Not me. I am entertained. I can get on weather.org and decide what looks logical. And then, I know that because God is the Creator and gives the devil control of the weather sometimes, ANYthing can happen. We prepare and take what comes. My boots, gloves and jacket are by the door! How’s the weather in your neck of the woods?